The super marriage can expand and contract, allow closeness without crowding and distance without diffuseness. A super
marriage is a super system that flows between neguentropy and entropy in an intimate rhythm of life and growth for both partners, a universal dance of intimacy, a Tao of sexuality.
The husband in our example reported, “I really cannot imagine life without her. We just are like one in a strange sort of way. A dance with no song.”
The wife added, “Well, he is not a part of me, I mean a part of me like my, I mean our, children are. I have become a part of him, an extension, sucked into his life. It’s the way a black hole must be, a spiral, with me going down further and further into him.”
This same compensated pattern was reported in the bedroom. “The more things change, the more they stay the same,” said the husband. “We just repeat the same things in the same way. We could practically just call out the numbers or use hand signals. I lie on my right side, stimulate her, then we do it. That only changed once when I broke my right arm in a softball game. I was on her left side then, and it was like making it with a different woman.”
“It’s like a merry-go-round without the merry,” added the wife. “He sort of works on me. He wants me to suck him after I come because that’s the only time I can force myself to do it. Then he goes in, does it, the end.”
Each time this couple makes love, the neguentropy, the merging, becomes stronger. They do not become more intimate, they become more trapped, stuck with each other and suffering together. They crash rather then merge. They have a type of marital implosion.
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