ABSENCE OF ORGASMIC CONTRACTIONS: I can enjoy the whole thing, but I do not come. I can go on and on, but I will not, I cannot come.
It gets so bad that I am actually screaming inside at myself to come, come, come. My partner says it. Come, come, come. I can’t, can’t, can’t.
Guess again which report belongs to which gender. The first is a wife, the second a husband. The similarity of sexual response and problems seems clear. Both genders reported problems with orgasmic contractions. One hundred fifty-five husbands and 344 wives reported such problems. When this problem occurred, it took with it in many cases the possibility of psychasm, for these people were taught that orgasm was the ultimate goal, the only goal of the sexual encounter. Without pelvic contractions, there could be no “fulfillment.” This is not true, and, in fact, these spouses learned to enjoy psychasm independent of contractions. When this happened, and the defeated, angry orientation at the center of this problem was removed, orgasmic contractions returned.
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